Tell Her About It!

Tell her about it
Tell her everything you feel
Give her every reason
To accept that you're for real

Tell her about it
Tell her all your crazy dreams
Let her know you need her
Let her know how much she means

Tell her about it
Let her know how much you care
When she can't be with you
Tell her you wish you were there

Tell her about it
Every day before you leave
Pay her some attention
Give her something to believe

"Tell Her About It" by Billy Joel

Greetings Faithful (male and married) Readers...

Were you singing those lyrics? C'mon...it's OK... I was...

It's time for our Friday post about marriage...where you and I learn new ways to re-spark the romance with our wives. Today's post is a little different in that it is a list. A list of several of my favorite (non-sexual) ways of affirming my wife (taken from the book Rekindling the Romance).

Last post, we talked about our wives' need for affirmation...a confirmation of who she is as a person and a child of God. Do you refer to your wife as "my beloved" or more like "the little woman" or "my ball and chain"? If it is the latter...read on... here is a list of several ways we can let our wives know that we love and cherish them... Remember, the end game here is not a sexual encounter... you are doing these simply because you value HER:

Here are my top 10 from the book:
1) Hug and kiss her every morning before leaving the house.
2) Leave love notes for her where she doesn't expect them to be (bathroom mirror, car, etc.)
3) Go one entire day without criticizing anything about her. Instead, notice something you appreciate about her and let her know...
4) Send her an email in the middle of the day and just let her know that you are thinking about her
5) If you're parents...compliment her ability as a mother and let your kids know they have a great mom
6) Brag on your wife in public
7) Bring back common courtesies with your wife (pull out the chair, open the door for her...etc.)
8) Initiate prayer with her daily
9) Clean her car. If it's your car too...keep it clean for her when she goes out
10) Put the toilet seat down... I know it's cliche but you still leave it up, don't you...? :-)

There are several more in the book, but these will get you started. I have to warn you...when you start doing these things and you haven't in the past...your wife is automatically going to think you are doing it for a specific reason (wink..wink...) Prove to her that she's wrong. You are doing it because she is your soul mate...your lover...and your best friend.

See you next week,
BV

Based on the book: Rekindling the Romance: Loving the Love of your Life by Dennis and Barbara Rainey